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    Is Not Rejoicing a Sin?

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    I’ve never been one to be able to get into rejoicing in the Lord. That’s not to say that I don’t, I’m just not a get excited about it type of guy. I always remember the story:

    A man stands alone, pouring his heart out to God.

    Looking to God for relief.

    In the midst of his prayer, he hears a still small voice of comfort.

    “Cheer Up!

    It said,

    Things could be worse”.

    So the man lifted his head and his heart was lifted. He cheered up and he thanked God.

    And Just as God has said

    “Things did, get worse”
    —–

    In Trouble For Not Rejoicing

    I got into trouble once when I said I’m not a very rejoicing person. I had a young couple come up to me after the service wanting me to be baptized in the Holy Spirit. It was just beyond them, that someone could claim to be baptized in the Holy Spirit and not be jumping about for Joy all over the place. Sometimes wish I could do that, but in the end, it’s just not me.

    I tried once, for quite a long time. It may have been after reading the book Prison to Praise by Merlin Carothers a long time ago.

    This was an amazing book and it became the “in thing” to praise the Lord about everything.

    Hit your finger with a hammer.

    Praise the Lord!

    Stubbed your Toe,

    Praise the Lord!

    My best friend’s Cat just died.

    Praise the Lord!

    A friend of mine just died…

    Well, that was much harder but still, that is what we were told to do so we did.

    Praise the Lord!

    I don’t think that was ever the intention of the author of Prison to Praise, but over time that was the result.

    Praising The Lord The Answer To All Life’s Problems

    Praising the Lord becomes the answer to all life’s problems. It was the magic formula to get that desired action from God.

    I remember reading another book that a friend Harry Roberts put me onto.

    It was called “Hey God”.

    It’s a long time ago now and I don’t have a copy, nor can I find one online but as I recall the book was written by the son of an Italian Mother that had recently come to a true understanding of faith and her method of exercising that faith.

    Basically every time she was confronted by a problem she would call out to God,

    Starting her prayer with “Hey God !”

    It was not so much about rejoicing as about one woman’s unwavering faith that God will fix everything.
    I found that truly inspiring. In the end, however, even though rejoicing gave me a tremendous high, it also had its Dark Side in that after the high, I went on an almighty downer and often had to fight off bouts of depression, sometimes severe bouts.

    It was just better to try and stay on a level keel emotionally. That way I could appreciate the Joy but not have to suffer the dark side.

    Read the rest of  Is Not Rejoicing In Fact a Sin

    Richard

    Sexism Is NOT Dead – Reverse Sexism is Worse

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    I said to my wife, “could you call this person he won’t listen to me. I think it is because I’m a man?” I thought Sexism is not dead.

    One of the things that amuse my wife and me is, that in a society like Australia, which prides itself on its egalitarianism, just how many times we come across sexist attitudes.

    My wife is a very competent woman. By far and away I would rather she phones people to get things done. She can be quite formidable. It is not unusual for a word to get back to me that some bureaucrat has gone scurrying, trying to get away from her when they know they have done something wrong.

    With this in mind, it is funny that my wife should sometimes come to me and in fact I likewise to her, with a statement similar to that with which I started this post. With the obvious gender reversal. Funnier still is that it is more often than not reverse sexism at work.

    Reverse Sexism

    By that I mean, the request to either of us is usually not because the person on the other end of the phone is the opposite sex. But rather the same sex. That is, sometimes to get better results from some request, it is often more effective for, a male to be talking to a woman on the phone and for a woman to be talking to a man.

    Now once you get used to this it is quite a good trick administratively. Get your partner or someone of the opposite sex in your office, for example, to call the person you are having trouble with.

    I remember a time when I was trying to book some airline tickets and I was talking to a man. I was repeatedly told again and again that I couldn’t book the ones that we needed. So I got my wife to call. Miraculously the person selling the tickets found a way for us to get the tickets we needed.

    To be fair it took some manipulation on the part of the ticket representative but never-the-less, what was previously impossible became possible. Because, for all intents and purposes, there was a person of the opposite sex on each end of the phone.

    This sort of sexism is nothing more than a game. Once you know how to deal with it, can be very amusing. However, in my life, I have come across much more sinister reverse sexism.

    Female-Dominated Environments

    Because I’ve worked with children most of my life, I have often found myself in a female-dominated environment. Fair enough, I am just sexist enough to accept that women are dominant in caring roles. But it can be a little rough at times.

    For example, in my work life, I have often had female managers. Don’t get me wrong, I like these ladies. They are usually very good at their job. But my frustration levels do reach a peek at times when I’m asked to do something, regardless of how busy I am, and the female staff are perceptually sitting around doing nothing.

    Or when one of the female staff is asked to do a clean-up job that I have already done (often much to the disgust of the female staff member I might add), purely because females are perceived to be better cleaners based on no evidence whatsoever.

    This is all just frustrating and a little unfair but in some instances, it can become downright unjust and exploitive. Just as is the sexism we are all familiar with.

    When I was running before and after-school care programs it was not unusual for me to encounter contempt from a female in a similar or superior role. It could sometimes make getting things that were needed for the children very difficult.

    I have applied for jobs where, when I walked into the interview room it became obvious, after a very few minutes, I was not going to get the work. Even when I was far more qualified and experienced than the other applicants.

    Why?

    Because I was a male and the interview staff were all female.

    I wonder if we were to confront reverse sexism would we be more motivated to stamp out sexism?

    Richard

    Complaining, A Sermon

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    This is a sermon I preached some time ago about Complaining. It was inspired by something I read somewhere at some time that I don’t remember. But I have found myself rereading a few times and I am challenged every time.

    Psalm 78

    1 Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth.
    2 I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old:
    3 Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us.
    4 We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and His wonderful works that he has done.
    5 For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children:
    6 That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children:
    7 That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments:
    8 And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not steadfast with God.

    Understand The People of Israel

    I have been known to say, that I could never understand the people of Israel.

    They continually saw the work of God first-hand.

    They knew that The Lord would never desert them.

    He remained faithful to them in all that they did.

    He set them free, he kept them, not just alive in the desert, but well and living on manner, the food of angels.

    Sure he seemed a little slow to respond at times, but surely they had come to point that they realized there was always a lesson in it.

    Even still they kept complaining

    It was something I was convinced I would never do.

    But as I went through life I found myself to be more like the Israeli people than I would ever like to admit.

    It seems that I too was far more comfortable with complaining than with remembering his mighty works.

    So you see that I can understand how hard it would be to follow the instructions in this Psalm.

    Not only that, I think I can say that I know how hard it is for all of us, not to complain.

    Complaining is a part of life.

    What would we do, they say, if we didn’t have something to complain about?

    The Psalmist begs to differ!

    His expectation is that we speak of that…

    3 Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us.

    We are exhorted to speak of the great and mighty things that God has done.

    4 We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and His wonderful works that he has done.

    No One Said it Was Easy Not To Complain

    The Psalmist knows how hard it is not to complain.

    2 I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old.

    What sort of sayings are they ? “dark sayings”…

    They are so dark that they are like a parable and require thinking about.

    They are dark because no one likes talking about them.

    But this is much more than a request. It is a command.

    1 Give ear, O my people, to my law, The psalmist says.

    And to what purpose is this law?

    ….. that they should make them known (that is the deeds of The Lord God)to their children:
    6 That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children:

    But what value is there in these people knowing?

    The value is…

    7 That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments:

    And there is the rub.

    If we turn our minds continually to the problem and never to the positive solution,

    If we set our minds and hearts to dwell only on the difficulties and against each other,

    If we tell each other how bad things are and never of the good God is doing.

    Then we forget God.

    And if we forget God, there is no hope.

    And if there is no hope, we may as well throw in the towel right now because life is not worth living.

    The Choice To Complain or Not is ours

    We can either concentrate on the wonderful things that God is doing
    and our in lives and …” not be as their fathers” a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not steadfast with God.

    And I think we know what will be the consequence of that!

    These are “dark sayings” for dark times but if we choose to be truly God’s people we must turn from our complaining and glorify the works of God.

    Because only then can we enter the experience of

    Isa 40:31 But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.

    Fairdinkum

    For in Eating The Lord’s Supper – From Communion On The Moon

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    I have never modified someone else’s work before. But I felt that this message put into words the main issues on communion so much better than I managed to over the years. It deals with the heart of communion in a way that I think I have failed to do and it is so important to our church life.

    Communion At Rhema

    In a church AT RHEMA, is a very special event. It only happens a few times a year and is prepared weeks in advance.

    It begins when the announcement is made that communion will soon be served.

    The people are told to really work at making things right with those they are at odds with. If they don’t, and they take communion, they will be judged by God.

    When this was first taught, after the announcement was made, there would be a scurry of activity. Phone calls were placed and private meetings were arranged and strained relationships were worked on. Husbands talked with wives, parents with children. (These days, most people work at this at a more consistent pace throughout the year, not just when communion is announced.) When the day finally comes, everyone arrives at church to find that all the chairs have been moved out so there is room to move around freely.

    A visitor must find this interesting to watch. It is one big solid noise as people mill about talking with each other. Some are praying together in small clusters, sharing communion. Their faces glow as they tell each other their love and gratitude. Some are crying, as they consider how good it is to be reconciled with a brother or sister again. They move from one person to the next, careful not to avoid anyone. In all the years of doing this, I have never seen people refuse to take communion. It is a wonderful time and no two meetings are alike.

    First Construction Projects

    During one of their first construction projects, when they were trying to turn an unyielding, old Victorian house into a sanctuary, differences of opinion threatened to sour the project. They had communion about three times in a row during this period, until the work was done.

    (1 Corinthians 11:21)” For in eating, each one takes his own supper ahead of others; and one is hungry and another is drunk.”

    The problem at Corinth was not just a lack of manners, but also a lack of respect for one another.

    The meal itself was not the problem; it simply gave an opportunity for their true attitudes toward each other to be shown.

    The deeper issue that concerned Paul most was the fact that they actually despised one another while celebrating communion.

    This shows they totally misunderstood what Jesus’ death accomplished:

    (1 Corinthians 11:22) “Or do you despise the church of God and shame those who have nothing? What shall I say to you? Shall I praise you in this? I do not praise you.”

    Those who ate before everyone else demonstrated their lack of esteem for the rest of the community.

    Our attitude towards the poor always reveals our deepest beliefs about grace.

    They “disgraced the poor”.

    Communion Disgracing The Poor.

    “Disgraced the poor” is an interesting word, which means, “to remove or subtract grace”.

    In other words, they not only failed to show favour or value to the poor in their midst, but they were subtracting it!

    Their behaviour contradicted the very message of communion.

    (1 Corinthians 11:23) “For I received from the Lord that which I also delivered to you: that the Lord Jesus on the same night in which He was betrayed took bread”

    I think that most people are of the impression that Paul changed subjects here in the middle of a chapter.

    It seemed like one minute he is talking about their attitude and divisions and then he suddenly switched to how he received the revelation of communion.

    One reason it is thought he had switched subjects was because we view communion as simply a religious observance.

    But Paul was using the concept of communion to solve church problems at Corinth and we need to do the same today.

    In Remembrance of Me

    (1 Corinthians 11:24) “And when He had given thanks, he broke it, and said, “Take, eat; this is my body which is broken for you; do this in remembrance of Me.”

    “do this in remembrance of Me”. This line is carved into thousands of communion tables around the world, yet its original message is lost on many believers today.

    Do you think Jesus was really concerned that any of the twelve were in danger of forgetting Him?

    Can you imagine the possibility of the first Century church forgetting Jesus or what He did on the cross?

    Personally, I have never had any trouble remembering who Jesus is or what He did for me.

    However, what I fail to remember, almost daily, is that His body was broken so that we might BECOME His Body.

    During the Last Supper, Jesus took a piece of bread and prophesied that the bread represented His body, which was to be broken so that we might actually BECOME His Body.

    The `Soma’ or Bread of Christ

    We are the `soma’ or bread of Christ.

    (1 Corinthians 12:27)”Now you are the body of Christ, and members individually.”

    The term Body of Christ refers to people about ten times in the New Testament, yet we forget this all the time.

    This means that how we treat other members of His Body is actually how we treat Jesus. We also forget that He resides beneath the layers of flesh and humanity in the person in the next pew from us.

    The Corinthians treated each other with contempt; divided into cliques and classes and after the “love feast” they reverently lifted the cup and took the bread, celebrating “communion”.

    We should be troubled when we think of the many Christians who take communion each week who are just as removed from the rest of the Body as the Corinthians were. Yet they won’t miss a communion service.

    Lack of Reverence

    In most of our churches, it is announced that if you take the elements with a lack of reverence or you are an unbeliever you cannot take communion, as this would be unworthy.

    In our church history, we used to exclude children for fear that they might be condemned because of their lack of understanding.

    But Paul was writing to believers, not unbelievers!

    (1 Corinthians 11:27)”Therefore whoever eats this bread or drinks this cup of the Lord unworthily will be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord.”

    Jesus never intended for us to respect the elements more than those we are in fellowship with.

    Today, it is common to wait a few minutes before we take the bread or drink from the cup to examine our hearts to see if there is any unconfessed sin in our life.

    Every Time We Pray

    The fact is, this should be a regular part of our living out of the Lord’s Prayer, not the Lord’s Supper. Every time we pray, we should include a space to examine our hearts and pray something like, “Lord, forgive us this day our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

    We shouldn’t wait for communion to do this, should we?

    Before we take communion we are usually told to remember that He died “for me”.

    While this is all true, this was not what Paul emphasized at Corinth.

    He was using communion to remind them that Jesus died for the other guy, so they would treat each other differently.

    Communion certainly can be used to reflect upon the forgiveness Jesus provided through His shed blood.

    Yet, if you only remember the things that benefit you and fail to remember that He did the same for those with whom you struggle, it is the height of selfishness.

    What can be more unworthy than lifting the glass to the Lord, celebrating what Jesus had accomplished, and yet holding your brothers and sisters for whom He died at a distance?

    It is not only hypocrisy, it nullifies the very reason Jesus shed His blood and allowed His body to be broken.

    This is showing contempt for what Jesus did on the cross.

    Jesus For Our Sins and Our Fellowship

    We forget that Jesus not only died for our sins, but He also died for our fellowship.

    (1 Corinthians 10:16)”The cup of blessing which we bless, is it not the communion of the blood of Christ? The bread which we break, is it not the communion of the body of Christ?”

    This “cup of blessing” is the only basis of fellowship we have with God and each other.

    It is the only thing we really have in common with each other.

    The word `blessing used here is `koinonia from which we get our word `partnership or literally our `participation.

    This is what the word `communion truly means.

    We are partners and participants together through the blood of Jesus.

    He not only died to reconcile us to God, but to each other.

    In fact, Jesus said that our relationship with each other is so important to God that if, while we are in worship, we remember a conflict we have with someone, we are to stop worshipping God and go to be reconciled.

    Wouldn’t it be amazing if we lived this way? To do this, we would have to view each other differently.

    (1 Corinthians 11:29) “For he who eats and drinks in an unworthy manner eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the Lord’s body.”

    Discerning The Lord’s Body

    Paul said that when we take communion without “discerning the Lord’s Body” we are taking communion unworthily.

    To discern something means to look past the obvious to see what is really there.
    It would involve looking past each other’s flesh, humanity, and immaturity to see Christ in others.

    We have no trouble seeing each other’s problems, shortcomings, or differences because that does not require discernment.

    To look past these and see Christ in others, does.

    (1 Corinthians 11:28)”But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of the bread and drink of the cup.”

    When we examine ourselves, we must review our recent contact with others, look for unresolved conflicts, and scrutinise our motives and attitude concerning the way that we have been treating those around us.

    If we fail to do this, and go ahead and take communion we become guilty or liable for His blood and death.

    If guilty, then we are worthy of punishment and subject to penalty.

    (1 Corinthians 11:29) “For he who eats and drinks in an unworthy manner eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the Lord’s body.”

    Paul said that the believers in Corinth were drinking judgment on themselves.

    Communion Judgment in Corinth

    This judgment was apparent in Corinth in three ways and in our churches today.:

    (1 Corinthians 11:30) “For this reason many are weak and sick among you and many sleep.”

    1. “Many are weak”: The word can mean either physical or spiritual weakness. Some are made weak physically.
    Others are left with the inability to overcome habits or problems because we lack spiritual vitality.

    2. “sick”: Some folks go from one conflict to another.

    However, we often become more introspective when we are laid up. Few things touch our lives or get our attention like a sickness.

    It is well known that some chronic sicknesses can be a consequence of unresolved conflicts or offences with others.

    3. “…and many sleep”: There are plenty of dead churches that stand as a testament to this verse.

    Believers Without Much Life

    There are also many believers without much life in our churches.

    They are asleep spiritually, but I believe Paul is saying that many Corinthians had even died prematurely.

    I believe this can occur when the Lord sees our unchecked negative behaviour and its effect on the church.

    Rather than allowing such behaviour to continue, He takes people home before their time.

    However, none of this is God’s perfect will for us. He made His will clear by saying that we can avoid all of this by judging ourselves.

    (1 Corinthians 11:31)”For if we would judge ourselves, we would not be judged.”.

    This judgment is also out of God’s love for us.

    In 1 Corinthians 11:32, Paul refers to this as chastening. “But when we are judged, we are chastened by the Lord, that we may not be condemned with the world.”

    He tries to get our attention with chastening to teach us and get us to repent of our conduct.

    Our need to learn to respect each other, even as we would Jesus, will take a lifetime to learn. It will take many times of communion to help us remember.

    Finally, First Corinthians 11:26 says, “For as often as you eat this bread and drink this cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death till He comes.”

    The act of taking communion itself does not really have much effect as a witness to the world.

    The word `proclaim used here, means to `promulgate.

    It is the word where we get the concept of promotion or advertising.

    Esteemed And Treated Each Person The Way We Do Jesus

    Can you imagine the advertisement our church life would be if we really esteemed and treated each person the way we do Jesus?

    So what’s the point of us not having communion at church today?

    I Don’t want us to copy another church.

    I Do want us to take communion more seriously.

    There is no problem with having communion as often as we do. But there is a problem if we become so used to it that we actually end up eating and drinking condemnation by not discerning the body as described today.

    It is my hope that we can prepare for the next communion by making sure, as best we are able, to come with our broken relationships repaired.

    Relationships both in and out of the congregation.

    I am asking that all of us take the time to properly prepare for a very serious time.

    Fairdinkum

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    Bear Fruit, Be Encouraged & Praise God – Sermon

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    No matter what it is that we struggle with if we keep our eyes on Jesus we can still Praise God and bear fruit.

    Psalm 92, NKJV

    12 The righteous shall flourish like a palm tree.
    He shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon.
    13 Those who are planted in the house of the Lord
    Shall flourish in the courts of our God.
    14 They shall still bear fruit in old age;
    They shall be fresh and flourishing,
    15 To declare that the Lord is upright;
    He is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in Him.

    David and Saul

    And David spoke the words of this song to the LORD in the day that the LORD delivered him from the hand of all his enemies and the hand of Saul.

    And he said, “The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; My God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold and my refuge; My Savior, Thou dost save me from violence. I call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised; And I am saved from my enemies.

    For the waves of death encompassed me; The torrents of destruction overwhelmed me; The cords of Sheol surrounded me; The snares of death confronted me. In my distress I called upon the LORD, Yes, I cried to my God; And from His temple, He heard my voice, And my cry for help came into His ears.” 2 Samuel 22:1-7

    The Righteous Shall Flourish

    Psalm 92, verses 12 – 15 “The righteous shall flourish like a palm tree. He shall grow like a cedar in Lebanon. Those planted in the house of the Lord shall flourish in the courts of our God. They shall still bear fruit in old age; they shall be fresh and flourishing, to declare that the Lord is upright: He is my Rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.”

    The reference in verse 12 is to the flourishing of the date palm. One of the more stately trees of the Palestinian plain. When it has attained full size it bears between 150 to 250 Kg of fruit. With its perennial green vegetation constantly renewing itself from the root, this is a picture of life.

    Mentioned side by side with the palm is the cedar, the prince of the trees of the mountain. Near Mount Lebanon in the north of Israel. Known for its graceful, lofty growth and intense vegetative strength and its perfume.

    Portrait of Spiritual Strength and Fruitfulness

    These trees portray the spiritual strength and fruitfulness of the godly person, fresh and flourishing spiritually no matter what age, eager to declare to all who will listen that the Lord is true and right in all his ways;

    Faithful to his promise, God sent his Son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. So full pardon is granted, for every transgression, to all believers. And as the Holy God, He keeps every one of His pledges of blessing to all who serve Him.

    With the Psalmist, every follower of the Savior, therefore, joyfully exults: “God is my Rock. He is my fortress in him will I trust”.

    That is, He is a strong, never-failing, Deliverer in the time of trouble. A sure and steadfast Guide for every path. He would have us walk all our days on earth. He is an absolute, divine Guarantor of my eternal life with Him in heaven.

    We often face troubles in life that make us less than confident that He is our “Rock”. The same was true for David! He faced rebellions, famines, wars, the business with Bathsheba and the dying baby, and all sorts of court intrigues, including a wife who rejected him and mocked him, a son who tried to usurp his throne, and a military commander who went rogue and killed anyone he thought of as an enemy. His day-to-day was no better than ours, but he sang the song and confessed the goodness of the Lord and called the Lord His safety and protection and Savior!

    Troubles Overwhelming

    I may face pain and troubles that may seem overwhelming. Struggle with the darkness that surrounds me. I may feel as though I can go on no longer.

    In the midst of this, I can look at Jesus on the cross. His sorrow bought us, joy, troubles bought us comfort, pains bought us forgiveness, death bought us life and resurrection is the guarantee of our own!

    In the course of life here and now, we can count on God. Call upon the LORD. He is worthy to be praised;

    “I am saved from my enemies”, said David.

    God still answers prayers. His Word still brings the Holy Spirit and His power, “The Comforter”. Our Fortress, Deliverer, Refuge, Shield, the horn of our Salvation, Stronghold, Savior and, of course, our God.

    No matter what it is that we struggle with if we keep our eyes on Jesus we can still Praise God and bear fruit.

    Fairdinkum

    Smart Alec, Dismissive Answer

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    One of the things that really ticks me off, is the smart-alec dismissive answer. I mean the sort of answer you get when you’ve asked a serious question and get a flippant reply.

    I’m not trying to be a killjoy here. I don’t mean the sort of answers that you get when you’ve made a sarcastic comment or cracked a funny.

    For example, when I ask my wife if she has seen one of my tools, that I was using around the house and the answer I get is “I don’t use them”.

    Love and The Dismissive Answer

    I love my wife but seriously. The chances are that I used it to fix something that would benefit the household. Surely it is in everybody’s best interest to offer some help. Instead, I get a smart-alec comment.

    Even If I were asking for something for myself, what’s wrong with asking for some help? Why should I expect to be belittled? I accept that I’m a little sensitive about this. Even remember my mother saying to me “I didn’t wear it” or “I didn’t take it off” when I inquired as to the whereabouts of some article of clothing or item I used to play with.

    I understand that it was a product of our time. That these sorts of comments are made because that is what we have been taught to say by our parents. But as brilliant as they were, my parents did not get everything right. I think this is one of those occasions.

    Everyone Is Entitled To Ask For Some Help Sometimes

    Everyone is entitled to ask for some help sometimes. One should not expect a sarcastic or dismissive answer when they do. Even if you do feel exasperated at the question.

    Now I doubt that my wife is ever going to completely abandon sarcasm towards me. After all, it is one of the ways she shows love. But I will keep working with her and between you and me, her with me, to be just a little less sarcastic towards me. May I recommend that you do the same to others?

    Next time you feel tempted to give a smart alec reply to someone who has asked you a question, how about stopping and asking yourself, “does this person deserve this or should I just give the help they are asking for?

    Dismissive Answers and Children

    And that goes double if you are dealing with children. Dismissive answers do not go down well with children.

    One thing that can be counted on, God will never give you a sarcastic answer and if anybody is entitled He is with all the stupid things we get up to.

    Hebrews 10:35 says, “So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.” now I have taken this completely out of context but the confidence is relevant. We can be completely confident that The Lord is a safe zone so that we can call on him for anything.

    More than that, I have to say that I am constantly amazed at how often, if it is important enough, particularly to God’s work, I have prayed when I needed to find something and looked down and there it is. Imaging how this applies to much bigger things?

    Richard

    Racial Prejudice

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    I was watching a TV program from the USA the other day and they were talking about racial prejudice. It made me recall an instance when I was in Bible college. I was listening to one of the students who was having a bit of a bad time with life and he made a comment that really surprised me.

    He said that he was tired of the racial prejudice that he was experiencing. I don’t know whether this prejudice was real or perceived because he was having a hard time at that stage, but I was really surprised because I couldn’t understand what there was about him that people would be prejudiced toward.

    In my dumbfounded state, I continued to listen for clues as to what he was experiencing and he said something that really annoyed me. He said the prejudice was because of his colour.

    And why did this annoy me? Because until he bought it up, it had never even occurred to me that he was an Indian from India. I had been quite oblivious to the colour of his skin.

    I can honestly say this because the moment he mentioned his skin colour I leaned over to the person sitting next to me and ask what the speaker meant. Until that point, he was just a friend. He was the same colour as all my friends. He was just,”Friend” colour. I didn’t know any different.

    From that point on I was never able to have the same relationship. Because no matter what I said or did from then on, he was someone else. He had labelled himself as a person of colour. Hence it was never possible to relax around him for fear of offending him.

    I don’t know if he ever noticed but I missed the person I used to know. He had now made himself someone different.

    I wonder if there are some instances when it is better not to talk about skin colour. I wonder if sometimes naming something only makes it worse.

    Richard

    Finding The Meaning of Life

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    Can you survive anything if you can find meaning in what is happening to you?

    In years gone by I used to run Before and After school programs. These were commercial programs. For children whose parent or parents needed child care before and after school, usually, so they could work. They were run by the council. So it was not a Christian program as such but I hope the work I did there was.

    The message of hope was often so lacking in some of these children’s lives. I have some stories or two that I could tell you and maybe I will but not today.

    Except to say, that I’ve never understood why more churches don’t run these programs. They’re an unbelievable place for ministry.

    One time I got myself into trouble with my council liaison officer who funded us.

    My Problem With Psychiatrists

    I had heard about a Psychiatrist who was coming to town to speak at some public meetings. Now I don’t always have a lot of time for Psychiatrists as a rule. They have a lot of good information but it is far too often the basis of what I consider a new religion for me to be comfortable with most of them.

    I remember as a young person being perplexed by the need of my church elders to have had a Psychiatrist say something and because it came from a Psychiatrist then “it must be true”, so they desperately spent time trying to make scripture fit. The possibility of a Psychiatrist being wrong never entered their head. Something that unfortunately still happens today.

    Nevertheless, this Psychiatrist was bought out by the catholic church and his topic was hope. This was interesting because I had heard that he had been in a concentration camp during the war.

    Being too much for me to pass up, I bought tickets for my staff and me, under the auspices of training. This seemed perfectly reasonable to me as we were supposed to have a training budget and I could think of no better form of training.

    Apparently, my liaison officer didn’t agree. I was hauled over the coals. Not that that bothered me as my job was way more secure than a coal hauling. And the tickets were already bought, so what were they going to do?

    You Can Survive Almost Anything If You Can Find Meaning

    The Psychiatrist’s name was Viktor Frankl. He was a Jew but was brought out by the catholic church which made it just that little bit more interesting.

    If ever you get the chance to read any of Viktor Frankl books I recommend you do. He is credited with having established the third school of Psychiatry (one being Freud and I have no idea of the second, possibly Jung).

    Indeed he had been in concentration camps and came out of it with something that, as Christians, we must accept as profound. He discovered and based his whole Psychiatric theory on the premise that you can survive anything if you can find meaning in what is happening to you!

    Now isn’t that a reason to tell the world about Jesus?

    Richard